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Attachment Styles in the Workplace

Updated: Mar 19

Did you know that learning to create secure environments is becoming even more important as Gen Z enters the workforce in greater numbers?


1987 Study: 55-60% of adults are securely attached.

2021 Study: Only 39% of adolescents are securely attached.


🔥 Types of Attachment:


1. Secure Attachment: Individuals feel confident and able to form meaningful relationships. Comfortable with both intimacy and independence.


2. Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment: High levels of intimacy, approval, and responsiveness are sought, often accompanied by feelings of insecurity.


3. Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment: Prefers self-sufficiency over close emotional relationships, valuing independence highly.


4. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (Disorganized): A mix of craving emotional closeness but feeling uncomfortable with intimacy.


🪷 Personal Insight:

My main attachment style is fearful-avoidant. This means I have quite an aptitude for crafting solid connections, BUT when I’m not feeling safe, my walls come up quickly, my defenses go in overdrive, and my interest can disengage. Luckily, my leadership journey has taught me how to create my own safe spaces. 🔥 But, many you will work with that aren’t there yet.


🔥🔥 In our professional lives, understanding the dynamics of attachment styles is akin to mastering dragon flight - each action is a blend of power, grace, and intuition.


🔥🐉 Attachment in the Workplace:


💚 Team Collaboration: Like a diverse flight of dragons, securely attached individuals lead confidently. In contrast, the anxious-preoccupied seek constant affirmation, the dismissive-avoidant cherish solitude, and the fearful-avoidant navigate the complexity of their desires for closeness and independence.


💚 Embracing Change: Change beckons our dragons to adapt. The securely attached view it as an adventure, the anxious-preoccupied flutter for reassurance, the dismissive-avoidant remain unfazed on their solitary path, and the fearful-avoidant dance between engagement and withdrawal.


💚 Growth and Reflection: In the realm of reflection, as the day transitions into night, our dragons ponder the journeys taken and the lessons learned. Securely attached dragons engage with feedback as if it's a treasure, eagerly absorbing insights to enhance their next flight. Anxious-preoccupied dragons, with hearts fluttering, may dread the shadow of criticism, needing light to see the path ahead clearly. Dismissive-avoidant dragons, soaring in their independence, may glance at feedback from the corner of their eye, wary yet curious. Fearful-avoidant dragons face this moment with a mix of hope and hesitation, torn between the desire for growth and the fear of vulnerability. Each style, reflecting the myriad ways we process growth and feedback, underscores the importance of understanding and empathy in our shared journey forward.


💚 The Remote Realm: In distant explorations, maintaining connection is critical. Securely attached dragons keep their bonds strong, while the anxious-preoccupied may send frequent signals, seeking assurance. The dismissive-avoidant cherishes the broad horizons but may need reminders of the strength found in numbers. And for the fearful-avoidant, the vast skies offer both a thrilling freedom and an overwhelming expanse of solitude.


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Cultivating a Thriving Realm:


1. Crafting Winds of Communication: Tailoring our communication ensures no dragon feels adrift.

2. Leading with Heart: Empathy uplifts and empowers, guiding us through storms.

3. Building Trust: Our sanctuary, where dialogue nurtures belonging.

4. Soaring to New Heights: Emphasizing both strength and heart, we navigate together.


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We invite all vibrant spirits into our realm, fostering a work world that embodies the fierce, passionate heart of a dragon - boundless and full of potential.


Together, let's embrace the diversity of our experiences and connections, illuminating our future with the flames of commitment, empathy, and unwavering support.








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