Let me tell you…
What made me successful when I was young was holding me back when I was older.
When I was young, I never took myself too seriously.
I could make a joke about myself 😅
I could get along with the guys, and if they made some joke about women or something else, I didn't care.
I would also make a joke :-))
I was very easygoing and a pleasant person to be around.
Not praising myself, but I was like that.
I would bring in the coffee for everyone.
And I also was a hard worker.
If some people work 100%, I would work 150%. So I would also produce a lot of results.
And that’s what made me successful in my early years.
But then I found out that the same thing that was making me successful when I was young was holding me back when I was growing.
Because people saw me too much as a friendly person, they threw lots of stuff at me, and I would get it done.
They knew that I, in a way, made their life easier.
I made other people grow. I improved their careers.
But I didn't have this sense of self-worth and the ability to set boundaries.
When I was making fun of myself, I didn't realize it was holding me back.
So my change was getting to know and becoming vulnerable about what was inside me and embracing it.
I'm still a kind person, and I care for others.
But I also have self-worth now.
I can say no ❌
I can make a boundary when something is going against my value system, and I can walk with integrity in a different way than I did when I was young.
So I don't need to degrade myself to be kind.
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