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"Americans are superficial, self-focused, or even overly talkative."

I've had the privilege of living in the United States and Switzerland, experiencing firsthand the beautiful tapestry of human diversity.


Today, I want to share a personal journey that taught me the profound impact of cultural differences on our interactions, particularly regarding communication.



In 2000, I moved from the USA to Switzerland, excited about the adventure, but soon faced challenges integrating into the Swiss culture.


I often felt misunderstood, with well-intentioned feedback suggesting that Americans could come across as superficial, self-focused, or even overly talkative.


Initially, I took these comments to heart and questioned my own authenticity.


Did I embody these traits as well?


The answer wasn't so simple.



🐲 Over time, I came to understand that Americans and Swiss have unique communication styles rooted in their respective cultures.


Americans tend to share voluntarily and appreciate reciprocal sharing as a sign of trust and openness.


Suppose you don't open up and share independently (let's say, keep quiet and listen as a Swiss person may).


In that case, Americans may inadvertently interpret it as you being someone they may not be able to trust, which can affect the potential for building a deeper connection.



On the other hand, although Americans can put a lot on the table, communication-wise, they typically share only what is comfortable for them, keeping more profound personal matters private.


When asked questions, especially probing ones, Americans may unintentionally overshare and, at some point in the conversation, realize this and suddenly feel naked and overexposed (because they may not have established boundaries for what they are comfortable discussing).


Oversharing can lead to moments of discomfort in cross-cultural interactions.



Swiss culture, furthermore, is more introverted and reserved.


Swiss people don't usually have the same need for rapid connections because they often stay close to their roots and have lifelong friendships.


When an American arrives and seems ready to share everything (what we put on the table to them already feels like so much, as they don't have this tradition), it can be perplexing and may even lead to misconceptions of closeness.



💚 But here's the truth: We all desire connection and understanding.


Cultural differences in communication can create misunderstandings, but underneath it all, we share the same human need for authentic connections.


After 23 years in Europe, with the Netherlands as my current home, I've learned to adapt my communication style.



Recently, during a trip to the USA, I realized that I now communicate more like a European.


I asked questions and waited to be asked in return. Oops!


The experience gave me a fresh perspective on my own culture and made me realize that we all have the capacity to adapt and appreciate different communication styles.



🔥 So, what's the takeaway?


Understanding and embracing cultural differences in communication can bridge gaps and create more meaningful connections.


We're not so different as people; we all crave connection.



Let's celebrate diversity and practice cultural awareness, whether it's in our personal relationships, workplaces, or communities.


It's a journey worth taking!



Please share with me your intercultural experiences! I am so curious.



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